being a man in today's world

Society has a major impact on our lives. Cultural expectations and social values shape our behaviour, beliefs, and choices. As these have changed over the years, what happens if we struggle to change and adapt?.

As men we all experience difficult thoughts and emotions, we suffer, but pride can prevent us from processing and sharing them as it may be portrayed as weakness. Our only option is to suppress the way we feel and engage in avoidant behaviours, distracting ourselves with alcohol, drugs, food, exercise etc.

 This may work in the short term. 

Age and declining testosterone levels can cause physiological and psychological changes, further reducing our capacity to fulfill our roles and responsibilities as men. We may become disillusioned, frustrated, even depressed without realising it.

With 3/4 of all suicides being men, it appears to be getting harder to know how to meet the expectations of society and remain true to ourselves. It’s easy to feel confused, oppressed and alone.

shame

Guilt

anger

fear

hopeless

confused

Oppressed

alone

Masculinity should be celebrated. It’s about being strong, brave and ambitious. Having a role, as a leader and protector.

Instead, it has become linked with toxicity. So how are we supposed to behave in today’s society?.

What do we do if our natural masculine drive is not welcomed?

It’s easy to feel confused as to our role and purpose.

Men in our society are being told what not to be, what not to do, and what not to say.

But not what to be, do, or say instead. We’re told that we’re privileged, but it doesn’t feel that way. We didn’t oppress anybody, so why are we being punished for the sins of our forefathers?

It feel’s like our very being is questioned on a daily basis.

It’s our secrets that kill us. The inability to share our thoughts, feelings and impulses can lead us to feel alone in the world.

As men we often lack the ability to express ourselves. We’ve  not learned how, or had a place, to talk openly. We keep our feelings and emotions locked up, unable to express them, leading to internal conflict, self doubt, and deteriorating mental health.

Psychological Coaching for Men

We can help you process your thoughts and emotions, find direction and purpose, and instill the motivation to pursue your goals