We all experience difficult thoughts and feelings. These can be uncomfortable, but rather than facing them, we find ways to distract ourselves, eg alcohol, drugs, food, exercise etc.in order to avoid our emotional pain. This only works short term, without resolution our avoidant behaviour can become chronic, with potentially negative consequences.
With 3/4 of all suicides being men, we need to find a meaningful way to reduce our mental suffering.
Cultural expectations and social values shape our behaviour, beliefs, and choices. As these have changed over the years, what happens if we can’t change and adapt?
As men we often lack the ability to express ourselves. We’ve not learned how, or had a place, to talk openly. We keep our feelings and emotions locked up, unable to express them, leading to internal conflict, self doubt, and deteriorating mental health.
But not what to be, do, or say instead. We’re told that we’re privileged, but it doesn’t feel that way. We didn’t oppress anybody, so why are we being punished for the sins of our forefathers?
How do we process feelings of guilt and shame that we feel without becoming frustrated, angry or depressed?.
As men we should be responsible, ambitious, strong and brave. Having a role, as a leader and protector.
Instead, we are often linked with toxicity. So how are we supposed to behave in today’s society if our natural masculine drive is not welcomed?
What do we do if our natural masculine drive is not welcomed?.